When we’re hurting from a loss or a painful past, it may seem like talking about it only makes it worse. That may be true if the person we’re talking to just wants us to get over it or denies the validity of our experience. It may also be true that nothing can be done to change what has happened so what good will talking about it do? If talking about it won’t solve anything, why bother, right? But here’s the thing, pain doesn’t just go away if we don’t talk about it. In fact,