Mental Health

When we’re hurting from a loss or a painful past, it may seem like talking about it only makes it worse. That may be true if the person we’re talking to just wants us to get over it or denies the validity of our experience. It may also be true that nothing can be done to change what has happened so what good will talking about it do? If talking about it won’t solve anything, why bother, right? But here’s the thing, pain doesn’t just go away if we don’t talk about it. In fact,

Ten years ago, I was meeting with a new therapist, and I was trying to describe my lifelong struggle with depression and suicidal thoughts. I was hesitant to tell them how dark my thoughts were and how worthless I felt. I had tried therapy before which had always made me more broken and hopeless, but I was desperate for relief.  She listened to me stumbling over my words as I was trying to convey my pain while also trying not to reveal too much. I had been raised in a family